Can you truly forgive & forget?

Who hasn’t been hurt by the actions or words of another person? Wounds of any kind can leave you with lasting feelings of anger and bitterness. We all heard a phrase “Forgive & forget” but what does it mean exactly? Some follow this phrase without even giving a second to think of what it actually means. Two words hold such an enormous pressure. Can you truly forgive someone knowing the scars will remain? Probably forever.

We know that forgiveness is about extending our mercy to those who harmed us, caused us pain, tears, distrust & unbelievable anger. Forgiveness is not a quick formula you can follow or a statement you can make. It is believing deep inside that we can let go of all those angry emotions and never to hold the grunt. Even if we know that other person doesn’t deserve it. It is not about finding excuses for the offending person’s actions or pretending it didn’t mean anything.  Forgiveness is a long process that ultimately leads us to be in peace with our selves. It is a painful challenge but deeply meaningful. The ill-feeling & memories will linger and resurface now & then. But you know that you made it, when recollection of an ugly incident no longer has an effect on you. Until then, the person who hurt us holds the key to our happiness.    

If you don’t practice forgiveness, you might be the one who pays dearly for it. Forgiveness can lead you down the path of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Forgiveness doesn’t mean to be vulnerable again. Choosing to forgive will heal you & allow a pathway towards a sense of peace. By not forgiving & holding a grunt keeps you trapped and you’re living in a constant state of unsettlement. When you accept the terms & forgive, in a way, you release all the anger & you set yourself free. So stop, analyze & give forgiveness a chance. That includes you too. Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself. We are often harder on ourselves than others & it inhibits us from allowing forgiveness to bring healing.

Is there anyone in your life yet to be forgiven? Look inside your heart. Only you can make the choice of forgiveness. Forgiveness will liberate both of you.


“Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong” -Mahatma Gandhi.

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